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a delicateness that at times is lost upon us. This delicateness is such that the possessor of it is willing and welcoming of guidance and advice as opposed to becoming argumentative and taking things as overt and unnecessary criticism.
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Especially as we get older, our tolerance for taking advice from those around us wanes substantially. It is definitely hard to fit into religious communities, and there are those who should never be giving advice or counsel as they seem to bear no wisdom and focused more in merely conveying than thinking out how to actually convey. I'm sure all of us can recount numerous instances when we were left in awe as to the way someone talked to us or treated us under the guise of religious authority. But our respective growth cannot be stifled because of a bitterness that turns into an unwillingness to take from the perspective of others.
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When the advice comes, even if poorly given, try to focus more on what is being said rather than how it is being said or who is saying it. At the end of the assessment you'll either fine that their point of view is valid or you'll be more reinforced in your point of view because it is valid -- in both there is benefit. But if we rely solely on ourselves to determine where we can improve, the growth will hardly come and our movement to obtaining our full potential will be that much harder of a process.
a delicateness that at times is lost upon us. This delicateness is such that the possessor of it is willing and welcoming of guidance and advice as opposed to becoming argumentative and taking things as overt and unnecessary criticism.
...
Especially as we get older, our tolerance for taking advice from those around us wanes substantially. It is definitely hard to fit into religious communities, and there are those who should never be giving advice or counsel as they seem to bear no wisdom and focused more in merely conveying than thinking out how to actually convey. I'm sure all of us can recount numerous instances when we were left in awe as to the way someone talked to us or treated us under the guise of religious authority. But our respective growth cannot be stifled because of a bitterness that turns into an unwillingness to take from the perspective of others.
...
When the advice comes, even if poorly given, try to focus more on what is being said rather than how it is being said or who is saying it. At the end of the assessment you'll either fine that their point of view is valid or you'll be more reinforced in your point of view because it is valid -- in both there is benefit. But if we rely solely on ourselves to determine where we can improve, the growth will hardly come and our movement to obtaining our full potential will be that much harder of a process.
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