why do I scare you?

Every male person that has built some level of trust in his relationship with me has told me this:
"난 네가 무서워!" (You are so scary!)

One guyfriend even told me:
"You have this look that tells me 'Don't even think about messing with me!' "

All I did was to
learn to speak your language
try to understand how you think
ask you what's going on in your mind
(and sometimes refrain from asking, depending on the situation) ..

and this is how you guys repay me?

How the heck else do you get to know a person?
How else are you supposed to make and maintain honest relationships?

Am I getting this whole relationship thing wrong?
Am I not supposed to try to understand?
Am I not supposed to try to be honest?

Then where the heck is the point in human relationships???

해치지 않아요;;;;;;ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ

Why the heck do you feel threatened by me?
Does my intelligence (however shallow it may be) make you feel small?
Does my wealth (geez, my dad works in a college in a rural town and he's the only breadwinner for my family - we have no savings whatsoever.) threaten you?

Do these things matter so much in our friendship?

Or am I that pretentious?
Am I such a good actress that people who look at me are persuaded by my pretense?

I try my best to look and sound smart and confident,
because the world taught me that if I don't do so, people won't take me seriously.
(And why do I have to keep explaining this?)

What the world didn't tell me is that women and girls are not supposed to be taken seriously, if they wish to build relationships with other people.